This story was sent to us by Cathy in Kentucky, US.

I've had three. At 17, 20 and 32.

All three were birth control failures. I begged for years for an IUD or sterilization but because I did not have children yet they would not even give me those options at the time.

I never wanted human children of my own. I am a better aunt and friend then I would ever be a mother.

I am now 49 years old, and I regret none of them. I don't even look back and wonder what if or if only. 

I look back and I am thankful I was able to access the care I needed each time. Although financially difficult and I did try to self-abort my second pregnancy before finally saving enough money to have a procedure.

And this was in 1990 in a blue state where clinics are very accessible.

I wish I had the ability then to put precisely into words what exactly I was looking for out of life that would make a doctor understand not every female-capable body needs to have children in order to have a full happy life.

~ Cathy