This is an anonymous Reddit post followed by three replies.

Has anyone due to circumstances out of their control ended up having multiple abortions?

I had a termination in 2000, 2002, 2007, 2010. Two were from rapes as a minor and two were failure of contraceptives (pill plus condom!)

I'm facing the likelihood of needing to terminate again despite being massively careful.

I guess I feel shame at failing to prevent pregnancy. Even though I’m not taking risks!

My partner is furious and completely against the idea of having a child.

I feel worthless and I know that I can't handle the emotional turmoil that goes along with having another abortion.

Replies to this post:

Shame is a mostly useless emotion. Contraception has failed you. You have not failed contraception. Get the care you need and then get a better contraceptive method if you can. You are not alone.

If your partner doesn’t want a child, tell him to get a vasectomy. It shouldn’t be all on you to prevent this.

I’ve had 2. I felt a little ashamed I was in the situation again but eventually I got over it.