"They dropped their support as soon as I could no longer legally get an abortion."

This story is published at Reddit.

I let myself be talked out of my abortion and out of putting my twins up for adoption. I will never forgive myself.

I was an 18 year old college student living on my own, having just escaped my abusive family. I fell pregnant and while I was trying to get information on having an abortion, members of a pro-life group sent me tons of messages saying they'd support me financially and emotionally if I went through with my pregnancy, saying they just wanted to be sure I had options.

I was extremely depressed and vulnerable and I was living in this haze, and they made me believe having a baby would fix everything. That my problem was that I hadn't fulfilled my life's purpose of becoming a mother, which reinforced a lot of my family's indoctrination I hadn't shaken yet.

They dropped their support as soon as I could no longer legally get an abortion, and I had to drop out of college to support myself and my twins.

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We had rough patches where I thought we'd end up homeless, but I still clung to the hope it would be worth it. My life would be better because I was a mother.

My twins are 6 now. I'm no longer struggling to put food on the table or pay rent, but they didn't fix anything.

I think I snapped out of it when they were 2 years old and realized I ruined my life by having them.

The horrible thing is I resent them and I feel so emotionally disconnected from them. Sometimes I feel like I'm just their babysitter and I'm waiting for their mom to come pick them up.

The idea of 12 more years of this makes me sick.


"I remain sure that I’m not the first woman who’s taken this decision and won’t be the last."

"I realized that I couldn't give these babies the basics, never mind what they would deserve."