This story — and the outpouring of support that followed it — is published at the Instagram account @ShoutYourAbortion.
Hi! I’m not sure if you will read this, but I found out I was pregnant again after 9 months since my second abortion.
I live in a third world country and we have a good group of support when it comes to get abortion pills.
After my 1st I always thought that if I get pregnant again I would keep the baby, but with my second partner we talked about and we were just getting started in the relationship and he just got prompted and I felt that a baby was not a good idea so I went of a second abortion (this was two years apart from my 1st) not after 9 months it happened again (our mistake).
And we are better now, but this year I wanted to concur so many things for my personal growth.
I feel bad and ashamed of thinking that I might go through another abortion. This third one it’s different because this time (if I do choose to do it) it will be for me.
I just need to know if someone else out there had a similar experience and if I’m not wrong for consider another abortion.” #ShoutYourAbortion
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I’ve only had one abortion but at this point I’ve spoken to hundreds of people who have had multiple. It’s incredibly common—about half of people having an abortion at any given time have already had at least one. Unwanted pregnancies happen, sometimes many times in the course of one persons life. Each of these instances is a new situation, and the choice and emotions surrounding it may feel different from before. But ultimately, you are the only person who can fully understand this complexity and choose the path which feels right in that moment. Please know that there is a massive global community of people who do not judge you for choosing abortion, regardless of why, how late, how many times, etc. We trust you to know what’s best and we believe that the freedom to choose this aspect of one’s own future is something to be celebrated, even if the feelings around the pregnancy are complex. Thank you for sharing ❤️ if you need to talk, please contact @alloptionsnatl ❤️
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My husband and I got pregnant after we were dating for only 4 months. While I knew that I loved him and wanted to spend my life with him, we just weren’t ready to have a baby together. He has a son from a previous relationship. I wholeheartedly believe that if I would’ve kept that pregnancy going we wouldn’t be together now. 5 years later.. I’m currently 23 weeks pregnant with our first (and probably last) and couldn’t be happier because we are married, have a house and feel financially and mentally ready to have and care for this baby. You have to do what’s best for YOU.
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“It will be for me” - and that is okay. That is reason enough. Sending love✨
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hi friend! i’ve also had three abortions. each of them for different, completely valid reasons, at different points in my life. they were all for me, because i couldn’t be the parent a child deserves.
i also had the abortions for my “future fertility”, meaning i chose to postpone when i would have kids. until i could be the parent a child deserves. and i did! i have two children with a partner who is dedicated and loving. to me, and our kids.
me and you, we are fertile people! e are people. we deserve to be safe and supported in the decisions we make for ourselves. so we can thrive.
you know what is best for you, i trust and honor that!
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You’re NEVER WRONG for considering an abortion.
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Do what feels right to you and what is the best for yourself. Your body, your choice— not society’s or anyone else ♥️
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You have every right to have another abortion, GUILT FREE, if that is right for you. That is the only reason you’ll ever need. Mistake? Fault? None of these things matter. Please make the choice that is right for YOU. 💛
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Abortion is normal ❤️ Many many people have multiple abortions! No shame in having more than one ❤️
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It's your body. It's your decision to make. Nobody else's. Do what feels best to YOU. May you find peace of mind and acceptance.
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Also as a person whose birthed people then had abortions I know that as hard as it sounds the real job is caring for the whole ass people you’ve made and have. And if having more bebe’s is taking away or might from them due to emotional or physical or financial capabilities they are HERE and you owe your efforts to them as full people more than an idea or possibility of one. And I mean that with zero judgement and just the most helpful and hard but legit advice I’ve ever gotten.
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On my fifth pregnancy I had an abortion. I already had 4 kids and didn’t want another. I never regretted it. If I got pregnant again,I would get another one. I am allowed to live my life! Sending hugs and support to you!
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As a former abortion provider and having had 4 abortions myself, I assure you, you are not alone.
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You aren’t limited to a certain number of allowable abortions. They are safe, safer than a colonoscopy and people repeat those without a thought! Healthcare is always the right choice!
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There is no guilt in having as many abortions as you need.
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I’ve had 2 abortions and would have another and another and another if I wanted to. Your body, your choice. Whatever decision you make, you are strong and I hope you find peace.
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I had a third abortion in 2021. The first one where I was married and I always assumed if I got pregnant while married I’d keep it. My first 2 were while I was single. After we discussed it it was mutually decided that we’d choose to abort. While I don’t regret the decision I did have a hard time grieving post procedure (more than my first two). Now almost 2 years later I feel more at peace with it.
There was a lot of internal shame I put on myself about having a third one. Now I’ve learned it’s not as uncommon as I assumed it was.
OP, you’re not in the wrong to consider another one.
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If you are not ready and able to successfully and wholeheartedly be a parent, there’s NO shame in getting an abortion, no matter the number you had before.
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I’ve had three abortions. No regrets.
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Don’t worry honey, you are doing what’s right for you. What’s right for YOU. Protect your self and care for your self or how else will you properly love and cheris the babe when the time is right if that’s what you wanted, take care of you that is the most important, you are the foundation and that must be strong 💕
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Whatever you decide it is out of love: for yourself, your family (future or current), your relationship, your future. These decisions are delicate and deserve kindness and care and compassion. Sending you love, whatever you decide.
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100 % Please take care of yourself: that is the only way we can be there for others, and make a better world. The world does not need more parents who are not ready to parent. It needs you to bring who you are.
Also, some of our bodies are more susceptible to pregnancy than others. That doesn’t mean you are “ready” or that it is your “fault”.
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If you don't want a child now, you're not wrong. This is not 1823.
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You're never wrong for making what healthcare decision is right for you. It's your right for being in your body. I hope they can heal from societal guilt. It's an unfair burden. I had my abortion 15 years ago almost; it was the right decision for me. Nobody knows you as well as you do. If she would like objective reassurance, we are entering or already in an extinction event. It is not the ideal world to bring a child into for many reasons IMO.
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I've had 2 abortions, and if it came down to it, I'd have a third. You are not alone.
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My advice? Decide. And NEVER let anyone tell you the choice you made was wrong.
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You’re never wrong to do what’s best for you.
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I have had 3 and I don't regret any of them!
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An abortion is never wrong. Ever. If you feel it’s right for you, then that’s what matters. You don’t need to justify it to anyone. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
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No matter how many someone needs, they deserve the same compassion and care as someone who needs their first. Abortion is safe, usually very simple health care. I’ve helped thousands of people who have had to have multiple abortions. It’s very normal. Sending you so much love ❤️
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I've only had one abortion but I had it in my 30's when I'd been with my partner for 8 years and could have fairly comfortably have afforded to have a baby. I considered it hard, but a child wasn't what either of us wanted. We were planning our wedding which we would have had to postpone or cancel altogether. We just felt like we had some more living to do. It really doesn't matter your reasoning...if you don't want, or are not ready for a baby then you should feel no shame about not having one. IMHO it is more shameful to bring a child into the world that you don't want or you can't provide for. That's where the real damage to both mother and baby is done!
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I’d like to lend my support to you and say if you’re not ready, you’re not ready. Just because there is a pregnancy, you are not obligated to carry it to term. You decide when (and if) the time is right. ❤️🙌
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You’re not alone! I’ve had 2 but I’d have a 3rd if I needed to
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I got an abortion bc I was in collage and I want to finish and I want it the same for my boyfriend. Later, it was my custom to take orégano tea when my period was late so I can’t tell you how many more abortion I got but more than once for sure and all of them my choice so don’t feel bad, no one has a “pass” for abortion you/we have them bc we need it. That is all
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I had 4 in my 20's. Late 50's now. No regrets. ❤️
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You are not wrong! If you're not ready, that's reason enough. You know what's best for you, don't let all the shame and stigma cloud your judgment ❤️
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I had to have 2 abortions within 6 months. I guess my story isn’t exactly the same as yours but, we all make mistakes. My partner at the time was irresponsible and so was I. But we don’t deserve to have our entire lives thrown off course just because we made some mistakes. It was hard for me and I grieved for longer than I thought I would. But the grief is over now, and I am in a much more stable, safe, and happy place in my life because I was able to access abortion care. I am happy and thankful to the abortion doctors and nurses who took care of me. They saved my life. Abortion can be extremely difficult but ultimately it’s important to do what is best for you. Anyone who has children or has spent a lot of time with children knows the outcome of not getting an abortion. But if you choose abortion, the possibilities are endless. It’s ok to feel guilty. It’s also ok to know in your heart that abortion is the right choice and that you don’t need to regret it, no matter how guilty you feel
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Always choose you, no matter what. And don't ever feel ashamed for it because you are worth more than anything 💓
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Your reasons are the right reason. Hugs to you ❤️
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It's never wrong to consider abortion if you're choosing it for you. ❤️❤️
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You are a great person and if another abortion will help you, it's absolutely the right thing to do. ❤️
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You’re not wrong. You are the only opinion that matters. You don’t need to justify yourself. Parenthood is a lifelong commitment (for women) and NOT EVERYONE MUST MAKE PEOPLE…. You must care for yourself above all others before you can care for another.
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2 abortions here. All reasons are valid.
