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I had three abortions for three different reasons.
1. I was too young, 2. I was too ambitious, 3. I was coerced and bullied by my partner to terminate the pregnancy.
I felt differently after each one. Relief, Empowered, Regret.
There is no easy answer to if or when someone should end a pregnancy.
I had no idea that there were others out there like me. I just considered myself to be an awful person with no ability to make good decisions . . . unsupported, isolated and alone.
I still struggle keeping my secret from family, friends, etc.
I think the hardest part is that no one knows and therefore I have no one in my life who understands . . . I MADE THE BEST DECISIONS I COULD, WITH THE INFORMATION I HAD AT THE TIME.
Thank you for sharing your story. We send you endless compassion for all you have been through. You expressed the reality so beautifully — that pregnant people are good people doing the best they can in very complex situations, so often lacking in any authentic support. You also make clear the truth that each pregnancy is unique, and each outcome is unique. The tragedy of abortion healthcare is not the procedure, but the judgment, shaming, lies and false stereotypes that push people into isolation. The unjustified stigma makes people mistrust their own inner wisdom. We send you love and compassion, and we assure you that your story will reach people who need to hear exactly what you are saying. Your words will make others feel seen, heard, respected and understood. Thank you for helping to end the cruel stigma. You are a beautiful human with a generous, caring heart. You are not alone. You are loved and appreciated. ~Karen
