All in Two Abortions

“To me, I actually felt that it was too soon to be having another abortion, and at some point I was scared something was going to go wrong in the process. It was awful, but just for a few hours. Fortunately for me the cramps and bleeding weren’t as high as the first one. I'd still choose this kind of abortion over surgical. Thanks to God and my boyfriend who stood by me.” Read more.

“In both cases, they were accidents with men I knew very recently, and the truth was it was not the right time, nor did I have the desire to start a family with someone I did not even know. It would have completely changed my life. I want to have children but not in this way.” Read more.

“En ambos casos fueron accidentes con hombres que conocí hace muy poco tiempo, y la verdad es que no era el momento adecuado, ni tenía el deseo de formar una familia con alguien que ni siquiera conocía. Habría cambiado mi vida por completo.Quiero tener hijos pero no de esta manera.” Lee mas.

“Now, 10 days after, I feel great. I fell pregnant by accident literally 2 days after losing my job. My financial situation was very bad. I couldn't afford a child. The fact that abortion is illegal in my country is irrelevant to me. Nobody can dictate what to do with my body. I believe that every woman should be aware of this option and take advantage of it if she feels the need to.” Read more.

„Teraz, 10 dni później, czuję się świetnie. W ciążę zaszłam przypadkowo dosłownie 2 dni po utracie pracy. Moja sytuacja finansowa była bardzo zła. Nie stać mnie na dziecko. To, że aborcja jest nielegalna w moim kraju, nie ma dla mnie znaczenia. Nikt nie może dyktować, co zrobić z moim ciałem. Uważam, że każda kobieta powinna zdawać sobie sprawę z tej możliwości i skorzystać z niej, jeśli czuje taką potrzebę ”. Czytaj więcej.

“It was the economic factor. I was living with my parents and I didn't have a job. Even though abortion goes against the religion that we profess, little by little we both assimilated it. We both mourned our two angels. I can say that the most important thing is to respect each other, among women, and to know that we are in different conditions, with different social pressures. We should have no judging of each other.” Read more.

“Fue el factor económico. Vivía con mis padres y no tenía trabajo. Aunque el aborto va en contra de la religión que profesamos, poco a poco ambos la asimilamos. Ambos lloramos a nuestros dos ángeles. Puedo decir que lo más importante es respetarnos entre las mujeres y saber que estamos en diferentes condiciones, con diferentes presiones sociales. No deberíamos juzgarnos unos a otros ". Lee mas.

“The contexts of my abortions were very different. In the first, I was younger and had a partner of a few months who was about to move to another country. At that moment I was totally clear that I would not be a mother. It didn't take me a minute to make the decision and I didn't consult him, I just let him know. I asked him to come with me.” Read more.

“Los contextos de mis AbortoS fueron muy distintos. En el primero era más joven y tenía una pareja de pocos meses que estaba a punto de irse a vivir a otro país. En ese momento yo tenía total claridad de que no sería mamá. No tardé ni un minuto en tomar la decisión y no lo consulté con él, solo se lo comuniqué. Le pedí que me acompañe.” Lee mas.

Listen as Bess talks about her four pregnancy experiences — two abortions, one miscarriage and the birth her beloved daughter. She shares about how her experiences led her into a career in women’s healthcare so that she can support other women. “People are not talking about pregnancy, abortion, sexuality, and reproductive health,” she says, and the silence leads to fears and shame. Listen.

“I was in a very dysfunctional relationship. My boyfriend was a heroin addict, although he hid it from me. I had finished with him when I found out I was pregnant. I was in second year at university and having a child at 19 was not in my plans. I did not want to have a relationship with that man afterwards. I was angry but could not talk to anyone about how I felt and bottled it up.” Read more.

“I do not regret it. I will be eternally and wrongly judged a slut and murderer in my country, however the guy who raped me is out there raping others. With my second abortion, I never took a pregnancy test, I just aborted without having proof that I was and I don't care, I don't care. It’s love for myself, and my neighbor. I will not bring children to suffer in this dire world.” Read more.

“Cuando mi hija tenía 2 años, volví a quedar embarazada. Le dije a mi madre de inmediato. Mi madre me ayudó. Así que todo volvió a la normalidad. Sentí un gran alivio. Pasaron unos años y en 2016 volví a enfrentarme a esta situación con mi actual novio. Había cambiado el anticonceptivo y el otro todavía no estaba funcionando, creo. Para mí fue el mismo sentimiento de hace cuatro años. Me asusté por completo, pensando Dios mío, mi universidad, mis planes, mi situación financiera en esta crisis. No perdí el tiempo ". Lee mas.