All in Three Abortions

"I felt like the most relieved, blissful person in the world afterwards."

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Three Abortions, U.S.

“I do not regret a single thing. I would be pregnant with my 3rd child right now and that’s exhausting to even think about. I want to continue my education. I want to travel with my boyfriend. I promise that it’s not always feelings of grief and loss — although that’s okay — but more of a wake up call surrounded by relief and excitement for the future.” Read more.

"A lot of women I've spoken to have also had more than one and this is not uncommon."

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Three Abortions, Australia

“The clinic I chose was absolutely brilliant in every way and I was so thankful that in Australia we don't have crazy right-to-lifers picketing at those clinics here. In some states a boundary law prevents this anyway. That said, I would not wish an unplanned pregnancy on any woman. But I would hope that should she be faced with that situation, that abortive services are accessible , free and on demand. I hate that this is still a dream but I will keep fighting for a woman's right to choose not matter what her situation.” Read more.

"We've got daughters and I can't imagine ever forcing them to go through a pregnancy they don't want."

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Three Abortions, Missouri, U.S.

“The 2nd time I had an abortion was when I was 30. Just last year actually. Me and my newly married husband already had 4 kids all together . Our youngest was 3 and I just mentally and physically couldn't handle another kid. Here I am now, 31. Close to a year since my last medication abortion and now I have to get another one. But this time I was taking my birth control EVERY DAY and i still got pregnant. I’m so mad. I was being so careful.” Read more.

"I kept reading on every single clinic’s website that 'abortion is never an easy decision.' Sometimes it is! "

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Three Abortions, U.S.

“After my third child was born and my husband and I agreed that our family was complete, I thought if I did get pregnant that I would have a hard time with the decision to terminate. I’ve always got baby fever! I had relatively easy pregnancies and births! I love the newborn phase!!! As soon as I saw that perpendicular line, any worries about being bummed went out the window. I was annoyed that I had to be dealing with this on top of everything else, but I firmly didn’t want to be pregnant right now, and didn’t want to add another to our family anyway.” Read more.

"I am the controller of my life and not a pawn in a political debate."

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Three Abortions, U.S.

“I think a true monster is someone who has a child and abandons it, leaving the child to feel damaged and discarded. I believe the current US regulations on legal abortion are an unnecessary burden to women based on price, time and loss of dignity. I feel that the government has more control over my body than I do. I truly grieve for the millions of women in other countries who do not have 1/100th of the freedoms that I have. I was sure and confident about all of my decisions.” Read more.

Podcast ~ Listen to actor Alyssa Milano and artist Amanda Palmer talk about their experiences of having more than one abortion.

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Audio, Two Abortions, Three Abortions, U.S., Scotland

"The hardest part of that whole day wasn't the procedure,” says Amanda Palmer, “it was actually the walk from the car to the clinic where I had to walk the gauntlet of angry, rageful, judgmental protestors." Says Alyssa Milano, “I was raised Catholic and was suddenly put in conflict with my faith — a faith I was coming to realize empowered only men to make every single decision of what was allowed and what was not allowed. I had a career and a future and potential.” Listen.

"I guess my approach to each of them has been totally different — my feelings and my reactions."

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Three Abortions, Cuba

“I was so naive. I told my mom, "You know. I haven't had my period in a while now. I don't know what's happening." Of course she didn't know I was having relationships, so when the doctor told her, "You are going to be a grandma," my mom looked at me and she was like, "Oh my god. What is going on here?" She did not talk to me for a couple of weeks. She was so upset with me.” Read more.

"At first I was excited about becoming a mother but later realized I cannot afford to take care of a baby at that time as both of us were not working and that would mean burdening my mother."

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Three Abortions, Zimbabwe

“My boyfriend was there and he was very supportive, but I resented him leading to our break up because at one point he told me I killed his child. In April 2019 I fell pregnant, but I was on the pill and it came as a surprise largely because I was being safe from the first pregnancy up to that time. I was so scared of falling pregnant again since the first abortion took a toll on me and it took time for me to recover from bitterness and to forgive myself.” Read more.

"This time is different, because I have chosen not to hide the actuality of what is going on in my body. "

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Three Abortions, Location Unknown

“I do not feel ashamed to admit that I am pregnant. I do not feel ashamed to say that I am going to have an abortion. Part of me worries whether or not they will think of me differently for it, and quite frankly that anxiety was what was keeping me from realizing that I was letting myself be blinded by them. But their opinions are not mine to harbor. I give myself the freedom to choose abortion and to always do what is best for me. I have an appointment scheduled a week from today, and while I still let myself wonder what it would be like to continue the pregnancy, I remind myself that there is still time for me to have a child in the future. This is the definition of family planning.” Read More.

"The idea of never living for myself and just dealing with perpetual poverty was incredibly depressing."

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Three Abortions, Location Unknown

“I have a long and complicated medical history, much of it centered around my uterus. I've been labelled infertile, and been declared fertile again. I've been pregnant seven times despite all of this, with one living child, who took me years to conceive and carry. Because of my ongoing problems and the insane ability to get pregnant even on several forms of birth control (each terminated pregnancy happened despite being on the pill, condoms, and/or spermicide), this was my last straw. I'm getting sterilized. Read more.

"It wasn’t the abortions that traumatized me; it was the secrecy, shame, inability to grieve, and the alienation."

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Three Abortions, Ireland

“Normally, when someone dies, the clan gathers, food is brought, sympathy is offered. Normally, death bonds people. Because it’s cloaked in secrecy, abortion separates, worse, it alienates. Grief is not meant to be a solitary experience. When grief is experienced alone, it’s traumatizing. Despite the sadness, I never doubted that ending my pregnancies was best for everyone involved. I’d be lying if I told you I never thought about my unborn children and the life we might have had together. But those thoughts don’t torment me.” Click the green title to see the whole story.

"My situation was that I was completely lost in life, with depression and anxiety, and no support or financial means for the responsibility of another life."

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Three Abortions, U.S.

“At 19 I had left home, was totally lost in life and became pregnant. There were not many support systems then, I had no money, felt panicked, and had an abortion. That year I got into a 10 year relationship with an abusive man. When I got pregnant again, I was terrified of him, being tied to him forever, and the pregnancy, and had another abortion. I used birth control sporadically, but was depressed and didn't care enough about myself to take care of myself. I was not cavalier about abortion, but I was so lost in life.” Read more.

"As women we are confronted with this and pushed to think we must become mothers when the opportunity arises as if it is always a blessing, but in many circumstances it’s not."

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Three Abortions, U.S.

“This morning I was filled with nerves and now I’m back home with such relief. I was kind of okay the first time and okay the second time and this will be the okay-est for me especially since I was so early in my pregnancy, I can morally deal with myself. I am so grateful that today women have the opportunity to choose when they are ready to make a family. I chose the pill because I have always felt that is the most natural way for a body. I do want children one day. I fantasize about them all the time, but this year is not the time.” Click the green title to see the whole story.

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