Mar 31 Mar 31 "I was so overwhelmed and spent weeks trying to figure out how I'd make ends meet." Sharing Truth One Abortion, Twins, South Africa “After weeks of thinking, I resolved to go through with it. It seemed okay, but I grieved about it more than I thought I would. The bottomline is I know that with everything involved had I chosen to keep them I wouldn't have been able to give them everything.” Read more.
Nov 7 Nov 7 "I knew that I would regret having them more than I would regret not having them." Sharing Truth One Abortion, Twins, Australia “The hardest part is the fact that it was my experience alone. Yes, the pregnancy was both mine and my partner’s, but it was my body. I was the one who felt sick all the time, I was the one going through the changes in my body. I was the one who went through the procedure, I was the one who spoke to the doctor. As much as he was there for me, he could never truly understand what I went through. Neither could the other friends I spoke to about it.” Read more.
Oct 1 Oct 1 "It was going to be the wrong time to have a baby, let alone two." Sharing Truth One Abortion, Twins, Location Not Given “When we found out we were pregnant we found out it was twins. The pandemic just started, we just moved in with his parents to save for a house, and not stable to have kids. I was also told I had lupus, and that has high risk all over it.” Read more.
Aug 30 Aug 30 "I would be a single mother of five attempting to co-parent with my abuser." Sharing Truth Two Abortions, Twins, California “I already had three children from my first marriage and was in no shape mentally or physically well enough to have another baby, especially with a man who frightened me. After a lot of back and forth, I went to Planned Parenthood. They offered to show me the ultrasound, and I hesitantly agreed. I realized - in horror- that I was carrying twins. TWINS! I couldn't believe it!” Read more.
Aug 12 Aug 12 "It was a 15-minute talk that was highly emotional for the both of us, but this talk was full of love and support and relief." Sharing Truth One Abortion, Twins, Tennessee, United States “This was a secret from everybody else, nobody knew about this, and I had nobody to talk to about this. My husband gave me space but also gave me support, and I know it was hard for him on deciding how he should help me through this, but I can tell you that he did a wonderful job on keeping me going.” Read more.
Jul 30 Jul 30 "The idea of two babies, with a higher risk of health issues, was too much for me." Sharing Truth Twins, One Abortion, United States “I started crying during the ultrasound and the rest of the appointment passed in a blur. I called my husband from the parking lot, completely hysterical. We talked when I got home and decided we can’t do twins. We have no support network where we live, I would have to quit my job soon, as travel is a requirement and a twin pregnancy is too high risk for even domestic travel.” Read more.
Jul 3 Jul 3 "Although we know it was the right decision doesn't take away the guilt and grief about it." Sharing Truth Two Abortions, Twins, Australia “We took a week to really think about what the reality would be for all of us financially, emotionally, mentally and physically. We really tried to imagine our lives with three children so close in age but it was not something either of us could envision without struggling in almost every way and impacting our daughter’s life in a negative way.” Read more.
Jun 30 Jun 30 "Now the fear has doubled, and now the work has doubled, and now my life as I knew is doubly gone." Sharing Truth One Abortion, Twins, Nevada “I did not want two children running around this house while I tried to figure out what went wrong, and I did not want a family that would be financially insecure with me going out looking for handouts. I did not want to take care of a baby so soon, and I would have gone insane if I was taking care of two babies at the same time.” Read more.
Jun 28 Jun 28 "Finding out we were having twins was like an ice cold bucket being thrown at my face!" Sharing Truth One Abortion, Twins, Canada “Shock! I spent the day problem solving. We would have to sell our house and move to a cheaper town. That would mean I would have to quit my job and my partner could not pursue his current ambition to start his own company.” Read more.
Apr 17 Apr 17 "I was definitely thrown for a loop when they told me, but I am happy and confident in my decision." Sharing Truth One Abortion, Twins, Location Unknown “I went in for my surgical yesterday and discovered I was carrying twins. If anything, it made me more confident in my decision. Though termination was what I wanted 110%, I won’t lie that there wasn’t still a little part of me that was sad that I’d be terminating two, not just one.” Read more.
Mar 20 Mar 20 "It was a really tough decision for me, but one that was for the best." Sharing Truth Two Abortions, Twins, United Kingdom “I have no pains anymore. My nausea is completely gone and my appetite has returned. I haven’t felt this good and back to normal for almost a month, so it’s like my whole body just took this huge sigh of relief and now I can just relax and recover. All in all it was a pretty positive experience under the circumstances.” Read more.
Feb 9 Feb 9 "I was wracked with guilt because it’s the way society told me I was supposed to feel." Sharing Truth One Abortion, Twins “I didn’t share my experience or the way it affected me with anyone. I was too ashamed to share and so the negative feelings stayed with me for many years. Then I started talking about it and everything changed. I realized that abortion is common.” Read more.
Jan 31 Jan 31 "The doctor told me that if I had them, I could die in childbirth." ~ "El médico me dijo que si los tenía, podría morir en el parto". Sharing Truth One Abortion, Twins, Mexico, English/Spanish “I felt that the world was coming down on me, maternal feelings arrived. But I became more conscious and I knew that this was not the right way, I decided that I would not have them despite everything, counting that my family would not even support me, and my boyfriend is still very immature.” Read more.“Sentí que el mundo se me venía encima, llegaban los sentimientos maternales. Pero me volví más consciente y supe que ese no era el camino correcto, decidí que no los tendría a pesar de todo, contando que mi familia ni siquiera me apoyaría, y mi novio aún es muy inmaduro ”. Lee mas.
Jan 22 Jan 22 "I don't regret my decision, but it just made it so much more heavy, that there were two, rather than one." Sharing Truth One Abortion, Twins, United States “Choosing to have an abortion, to not reproduce, aligns with my goals for myself. I had just left a long relationship, I needed to work on myself and just got caught up in a fling. If I would have had them, they'd be tying me to some random, older dude for the rest of my life. Plus I'd have to figure out how to raise not one, but TWO babies, when I can't even take care of myself.” Read more.
Jan 12 Jan 12 "We already have two children and taking care of another two would be a drastic change for all of us." Sharing Truth Two Abortions, Twins, United States “This is also my second abortion, but my first one was when I was 19 and and that was 11 years ago. I kind of understand what is going to happen, but this abortion is going to be an emotional nightmare for quit a while. Planned Parenthood told me that twin abortions are common. I am just doing what I think is best for my family.” Read more.
Dec 8 Dec 8 "It would be double the amount of struggle to try and care for them both." Sharing Truth One Abortion, Twins “The doctor looked so confused and looked up at me and said, “Do you have any multiples in your family?” There are basically no twins in my entire family, so I just said “no not at all.” She turned the screen towards me and two little blobs instead of one were popped up on the screen. “There’s actually 2 of them, if you can see that,” she says to me. 2? Twins? Something about how rare this is, drives me nuts. It feels like I’m spoiling an opportunity given to me. I feel like . . . I don’t know how I feel.” Read more.
Dec 3 Dec 3 "My boyfriend and I had to take a break, walk around the block a few times, have a tea, and discuss it some more." Sharing Truth One Abortion, Twins “During the sonogram portion of the procedure, the lady asked me if I’d like to see the sonogram (nope) or hear any details about it (no), or know if there were multiples (um, kind of morbidly curious as I’d always sort of fantasized about having twins and I am related to at least one set of twins). Sure enough, it was twins.” Read more.
Nov 27 Nov 27 "People always tell you twins are a blessing and twins are a miracle." ~ Podcast With Transcript Sharing Truth Twins, Later Abortion, Multiple Abortions, Audio, United States “I was a college student. I was unemployed, and it was a lot, to say the least. My partner was an amazing person, but they were in Texas at the time. And here I am sleeping on a mattress, trying to afford, you know, this next semester. It was just no way that I was going to be able to take care of not one but two children, you know? I couldn't even take care of myself.” Listen or read more.
Nov 14 Nov 14 "They were so loved in the short time that I was able to carry them." Sharing Truth One Abortion, Conjoined Twins, Later Abortion, Second Trimester, Kentucky, United States “She pulled up the ultrasound so that we could take a look. Our baby, which had appeared completely normal at our 8-week scan, was actually a very rare form of conjoined twins. They shared one upper body, but there were 4 legs and 2 spines. We were in complete shock. I don’t think either of us knew how to feel in that moment. All I could do was cry.” Read more.
Oct 12 Oct 12 "The main reason why I chose to go ahead with the termination was I was starting my nursing training." Sharing Truth One Abortion, Twins, United Kingdom “When it comes to sex, usually I make sure there can't be any slip ups. But that one time I don't use another method of contraception with my pill, I get caught. I have gastro oesophageal reflux disease (GORD) so when my symptoms of morning sickness started I thought I was just having one of my GORD episodes. Never did I think I was pregnant.” Read more.
